Hey ADHD friends:
Schedules create rebellious emotions because we change our thoughts from “I want to do this” to “I have to do this”
The reason you feel GREAT when you are putting a schedule together and CRAPPY when you are trying to carry it out is this:
YOUR THOUGHTS HAVE CHANGED.
You created the schedule thinking about your goals and all the things you WANT to do in your life.
But when it comes time to carry out the tasks you listed, your thoughts shift. Suddenly, you are telling yourself you DON’T want to do any of this stuff.
You might even be annoyed or angry at your past self for putting you in the position of HAVING to either do a bunch of work you don’t want to do OR become someone who doesn’t follow through on his/her word.
I get it. I’ve been there a million times. Here are some of the ways I choose to think about my scheduling.
1. If I want it, I want it (this applies to goals, items, opportunities, relationships, etc.)
2. If I want it, I want ALL of it. Not just the good parts. Not just when I feel motivated. If I commit to wanting something, I commit to ALL OF IT.
3. I ONLY schedule what I have thought through and decided I WANT. Looked at the pros and cons and DECIDED: “I want this.”
My present self can look at my schedule at any given time and KNOW that there is nothing on there that I don’t want to do. Nothing that won’t be satisfying when I think about it later, nothing that cannot be enjoyed in the moment. It is only my LOWER brain resisting, not my true self. My true self is ALL IN.
And when I focus on THAT, I get things done.
Want help doing the same?