Schedules Create Rebellious Emotions!

Hey ADHD friends: Schedules create rebellious emotions because we change our thoughts from “I want to do this” to “I have to do this” The reason you feel GREAT when you are putting a schedule together and CRAPPY when you are trying to carry it out is this:⁠⁠YOUR...

How To Actually Do What You Write In Your Planner!

The reason you sometimes have such a hard time following through on what you plan is because the part of you that plans is not the same as the part of you that carries out your plans. The part of you that plans is like: “Productivity at all cost. We will take no...

“I could have done better” is never true!

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but NO, you couldn’t have done better. When you look at something that happened in the past and you feel that stab of regret or remorse or guilt or shame, and you think, “Oh, I could have done better. In fact, I...

ADHD and Disappointing People PART 1

When someone is disappointed with you, here’s why. Humans imagine. It’s what we do. We dream up pictures about the way the world could be and we try to make it so. We also believe that the closer the world is, the closer reality is to the way that we have...

ADHD and Disappointing People PART 2

Okay, so if somebody else’s disappointment is not about you at all, what should you do if someone tells you they’re disappointed in you? First, get yourself out of your own vision and imagination and into your own reality. I do this by stating facts to...