Here’s why it’s so hard to stop impulse buying if you’re a person with ADHD.
A purchase is a lightning-fast transition between I want it, which is a thought that creates tension and drive, and I got it, which creates resolution and a cascade of feel-good chemicals.
If you’re like me, you get excited just going to the mall or logging into Amazon because you know you’re going to see something, want it, and then buy it. But do you know what your brain thinks you’re buying? Success.
The achievement of something that matters. And a lot of us with ADHD have been set up to not get that feeling very often, and we need it.
So the first thing I want you to do is to cut yourself some slack.
And then if you really want to stop impulse buying, the next thing you want to do is to restructure your life from the brain down so that you are allowed to experience success on a daily basis.
Don’t hate yourself into stopping the coping mechanism…solve the problem you are coping with.
You can set up your life so that you are constantly achieving goals, finishing projects, and becoming more and more competent.
When you do that, you won’t need to constantly find something to purchase.
This week, we’re going to redefine success in a way that does not feel like gaslighting yourself. Follow me for more help.
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